The loss of a much loved companion animal can be especially difficult for older
adults, who experience the tremendous benefits of companion animals as well as
the profound grief responses to a pet's death. These responses can be affected
by issues that are unique to elders. Often, they have already experienced
multiple other losses such as the deaths of spouses, relatives, neighbors and
longtime friends. Frequently, the elderly experience chronic illnesses or pain
which decrease their mobility, socialization and participation in customary
activities. Busy lives, geographical separations, and the inability to travel
can prevent meetings with nuclear and extended family members. All this
contributes to a sense of aloneness that can isolate older adults.
For many elders the relationships that they have with their companion animals
are their most important & #151; companions to talk with, to care for, to sleep
with, to get up for each day-that provide continued unconditional love. These
pets are their families and best friends. Losing a pet means losing this
companionship and the feeling of being needed. The absence of a beloved animal
can be overwhelming.
During this painful time of grieving, older adults might consider the following
as ways to honor the loved animals: preparation of a tribute such as a scrapbook
of the animals life, writing stories of shared experiences with the pet,
creating and carrying out a ritual, making a contribution to an animal
organization in memory of the pet, fostering an animal who needs temporary care,
and/or attending pet loss support group. Additionally, they often benefit from
seeking out others who are compassionate, sensitive and supportive to this very
real and painful loss. Such support can be critical to the person's recovery
from such a significant loss.
